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Record the Stories of Your Life, tips, how-to, memoir book reviews, by Jerry Waxler memoir, writers, self-help, book-reviews, essays Jerry Waxler Jerry Waxler jerrywaxler@yahoo.com no no http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/grieving-in-memoirs/ http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/grieving-in-memoirs/#comments Mon, 13 Jun 2011 11:49:46 +0000 jerrywaxler http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/?p=1208 http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/grieving-in-memoirs/feed/ 1 http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/two-waxler-workshop/ http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/two-waxler-workshop/#comments Thu, 19 May 2011 11:38:49 +0000 jerrywaxler http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/?p=1185 http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/two-waxler-workshop/feed/ 6 http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/courage-walk-review/ http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/courage-walk-review/#comments Tue, 15 Jun 2010 11:50:51 +0000 jerrywaxler http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/?p=817 http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/courage-walk-review/feed/ 1 http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/interview-academic-popular-writing/ http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/interview-academic-popular-writing/#comments Thu, 10 Jun 2010 10:53:17 +0000 jerrywaxler http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/?p=812 http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/interview-academic-popular-writing/feed/ 2 http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/memoir-mourning-son/ http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/memoir-mourning-son/#comments Mon, 17 May 2010 10:27:37 +0000 jerrywaxler http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/?p=786 http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/memoir-mourning-son/feed/ 2 http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/grief-brother-grow/ http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/grief-brother-grow/#comments Mon, 30 Nov 2009 11:13:15 +0000 jerrywaxler http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/?p=665 http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/grief-brother-grow/feed/ 5 http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/alex-parrot-memoir/ http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/alex-parrot-memoir/#comments Tue, 28 Apr 2009 12:19:34 +0000 jerrywaxler http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/?p=477 http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/alex-parrot-memoir/feed/ 3 0:07:23 by Jerry Waxler I first learned about Alex while I was on a spiritual retreat in the mountains of eastern Pennsylvania. Our host played a video of a talking African Gray parrot named Alex. Alex’s trainer, Dr. Irene Pepperberg held a tray of ob[...] by Jerry Waxler I first learned about Alex while I was on a spiritual retreat in the mountains of eastern Pennsylvania. Our host played a video of a talking African Gray parrot named Alex. Alex’s trainer, Dr. Irene Pepperberg held a tray of objects and asked questions. For example, she asked “which square?” and the parrot answered, “green,” because the square object was colored green. She asked “which same?” and Alex correctly said “key” because the keys were all made of cork. He even concocted his own words, for example describing an almond as a “cork-nut,” a word he was never taught. Tell me more about that parrot Alex was cute, zany and unpredictable, and while Pepperberg watched him learn, he was teaching her about the mind of a bird. His bobbing head, hyper-alert eyes, and clever voice mesmerized me, making me an instant fan. I was not alone. Everyone who saw Alex fell in love with him. A few years later I heard that the parrot died, a loss that surprised and saddened me. Then I saw the memoir “Alex and Me” by Irene Pepperberg, and thought, “Hey, I know that bird!” The book starts with Alex’s sudden, unexpected death in 2007, followed by the outpouring of sympathy from around the world. Pepperberg read a sampling of the letters and obituaries from Alex’s many admirers. As each one played upon my heart, I was amazed at how much compassion they stirred. Like a group hug, Alex’s well wishers were drawing me in to Pepperberg’s pain. Outpouring of compassion creates secondary compassion I looked for a similar effect in my own life and remembered my mother’s memorial service. Her old friends came up to me and said “You were lucky to have such a great mom” and “I admired her so much,” and “We miss her.” Later, I turned their comments over in my mind, and was awed at the complexity of emotions. How much were they seeking to support me, and how much were they hoping that somehow my presence could help them relieve their own grief? These moments showed me how intertwined we all are. During our communal grieving, we were each trying to make sense of what just happened, while supporting each other as we moved forward. Writing Prompt When in your life did empathy flow towards you? Was it related to the death or illness of a loved one? Or did others reach out to comfort you when you were in the hospital yourself? Describe the scene, keeping in mind that it will give the reader an opening through which they too can feel connected. Emotional Bonds to Our Companion Animals Dr. Pepperberg and Alex were close companions and so the book turned out to be a buddy story between human and bird. Sharing genuine emotions with animals has become widely respected, as evidenced by the runaway success of “Marley and Me,” by John Grogan, a memoir about the author’s relationship with a dog. To make the relationship even deeper, Dr. Pepperberg showed how it evolved over the years. At first, she tried to maintain distance in order to create an objective, scientific perspective. She worked with him closely for years. Then after Alex died, Irene cried and cried, making her and her readers realize how deeply emotionally involved she had become.. Writing prompt List your pets, and other encounters with critters. When you remember a scene, stop listing and start writing. See if you can string a few scenes together to show how the relationship changed over time. Structure of a story, beginning, middle, and end Every memoir writer seeks excellent story structure. Pepperberg’s memoir offers a couple of insights. For one thing, she grabs our attention with a bang, shocking the reader into the midst of the action, a technique the Greeks called “in medias res.” Then the story returns to the beginning, and moves forward through the long middle, towards an ending that resolv[...] Grief/Loss, Interspecies, Science Jerry Waxler no no http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/kate-braestrups-memoir-transforms-grief-into-love/ http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/kate-braestrups-memoir-transforms-grief-into-love/#comments Tue, 06 May 2008 11:20:07 +0000 jerrywaxler http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/?p=128 http://memorywritersnetwork.com/blog/kate-braestrups-memoir-transforms-grief-into-love/feed/ 3 0:00:01 On her journey from grief back into full connection with the living, Braestrup sets her sights beyond her personal experience. Through her study to be a minister and her work with the public, she raises huge questions, and then through the magic of [...] On her journey from grief back into full connection with the living, Braestrup sets her sights beyond her personal experience. Through her study to be a minister and her work with the public, she raises huge questions, and then through the magic of storytelling makes me feel that together we can understand it all. Spirituality/Transcendence Jerry Waxler no no